INTERVIEWING PARENTS

Nancy F. Morse, M.A.

Instructor

Human Development and Family Studies

Parkland College, Champaign, Illinois

 

Interviews help you and the parents decide if your center - and your program philosophy - are right for the child. Each child is unique. Each family is unique. Each child care program is unique. Children do best in situations in which the philosophy of the program and the views of parents are similar. And the child care program will do best if what you offer is compatible with what the parents need and expect. If your hours are from 7 a.m. to 6 p.m., you are asking for trouble if you accept a family in which both parents work until 6 o'clock. Here are some ideas for conducting a successful interview.

PICK A GOOD TIME.

Schedule the interview so that both the parent and the child can come. Also, pick a time when you will be able to concentrate on the interview.

BEFORE THE INTERVIEW.

Make a list of the information you want to share. Talk about your hours and fees, the ages and number of children in your center, if you take sick children and how sick they can be, meal procedures, what the children will do during the day, your approach to discipline, and your goals for children. It helps to have your policies written down in a handbook that you can give to the parents.

Make a list of the information you want to find out. You will want to know the hours care is needed, what the parents expect of you, their views on bringing up children, their approach to discipline, the types of activities they would like for their child, and their view of how children should be prepared for school. You will also want to observe the parent and child together. This is why it is important to have the child along.

DURING THE INTERVIEW.

Make the child comfortable with an appropriate activity. The child will probably want to remain close to the parent while you talk.

- Start informally. Talk a bit about yourself and the center. Find out a bit about the child and his family. You may want to ask things such as how old the child is, if he has any brothers or sisters, and if the family lives in the neighborhood.

- Exchange information. Talk about your policies and your contract, your program philosophy, and the forms parents will need to sign. Encourage the parent to talk about his needs and expectations. Have an honest discussion. Don't try to convince parents that your methods are best or bend your convictions in order to go along with their ideas. Be sure to listen carefully to the parents questions and answer them honestly.

- Go on a tour. Show the parent around all parts of the center. This is also a good time to observe how the parent and child act toward each other. You may want to allow some time for the child to play in the room they would be in.

Allow time for reflection. At the end of the interview, arrange to meet again to clarify any questions that may come up after the interview. If it is impossible to have a second meeting, at least arrange to talk again by phone. Then, you'll be ready to make a final decision.

SET UP A TRIAL PERIOD.

It is often a good idea to start new children on a trial basis for three or four weeks. This will make it easier for either you or the parent to end the arrangement if it is not working out well.

At start of interview, fill in this information:

Date: _______________________ Time: ______________________________

Names of people attending Interview: ________________________________

Name of child _________________________________Birth date_________________
Name of child _________________________________Birth date_________________
Name of child _________________________________Birth date_________________

If you require references, ask Parents to fill this in: (can put on separate piece of paper)
Parent References:
Name: __________________________ Relationship: _____________ Ph#: _________
Name: __________________________ Relationship: _____________ Ph#: _________
Name: __________________________ Relationship: _____________ Ph#: _________

Ask Parents during interview:

• What are your discipline beliefs? _____________________________________ ________________________________________________________________
• What are your expectations of the program? / What do you want your childcare provider to do with/for your child? _____________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
• On the phone you stated that you needed care on ___________________(days) from ________ to _________ (times).
• Are these dates and times still accurate? _______________________________
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• Does your child have any allergies to foods, medicines or just allergies in general? _________________________________________________________ If yes, is (s)he being seen by a medical professional? ____________________.
• Briefly go over ___rates and ____expectations of parents (___payment policy, ____hours of business, ____vacation and sick day policies, explain ____daily schedule, show samples of ____ lesson plans or learning activities, _____show parents around the areas used by the children, ____ share menu with parents.
• Provide references. (I have a few in a folder that I ask them to read. I use this time to interact with the child to get a better feel for whether the child and I will be a good match. I also provide the parents with a telephone and email listing of all the parents, present and past, that have agreed to act as references for me. I encourage the parents to take the list home and contact a few on the list.)
• ______share any certifications, licenses, trainings, etc.

After Interview Reflection:
How did parent show interest in the child’s behavior during the interview (Parent/Child Interaction)? ______________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Did parent show a willingness to be flexible and adapt to my rules? ______________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Signs that the child may be difficult to care for: (Did child listen, was child destructive or disrespectful, etc)________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Did the parent treat me with respect and have a positive attitude? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Will the days and hours needed fit within my program or requirements? _____________